10 things I miss about my life before I had a baby…

10 things I miss about my life before I had a baby… | life before baby life after baby humour | mamasVIB

Once you’ve had a baby you can’t imagine what your life was like before. Even though I wouldn’t change it for the world – I wondered what I actually missed from my BBL a.k.a BEFORE BABY LIFE.

Once I wrote the list I realised they were all kinda superficial, not really that important or just plain selfish.

Now, I love a bit of ‘me-time’ or alone time as much as the next person but my life is definitely better ABL a.k.a AFTER BABY LIFE.

I have learnt and gained so much (along with a little extra weight and dark circles!) – and I’m glad to say all good things. I’ve realised my life is soooo much better because of this crazy club we call MOTHERHOOD.


1) Sleeping in. Full stop.

2) Going out on the spur of the moment – be it with friends or my husband. Everything now has to be planned and/or the early bird special!

3) Beauty treatments – especially going for indulgent pedicures and manicures. I still go for them – just not as often and mainly do them at home now when Miss Marnie is in bed.

4) Finishing a hot drink while it is still you know hot.

5) Reading. I can’t actually remember the last book I read. And, I’m sad about this as I love reading but I think its more of a time/attention span issue than a baby issue. I guess I read lots of kids books now and can re-read books from my childhood too which is a plus.

6) Watching TV box sets back to back. I have loads stacked up now (Downton Abbey, Dexter, Thirtysomething, Call the Midwife) – I will get to them one day.

7) Wallowing in a hangover. You know lying in bed, eating junk food, watching bad TV and not moving all day. Now I have no time for a hangover. I did have one a few weeks back after I thought it was a good idea to finish the bottle – lets just say the next day wasn’t fun!

8) High heels. After months of flats I can’t seem to walk in them anymore.

9) Real Me-Time. You know the ‘me-time’ when you do exactly what you want, whenever you want, however you want. Not this new ‘mummy me-time’ where you have to pre-plan free time to go and do things that you have to do (haircut, manicure, shop, make a phone call…)

10) Doing all the housework in a few hours on a Saturday morning and it staying clean for a few hours at least! Yes, I was one of those people who loved getting up and doing a big clean – and because it was just Mr VIB and I it pretty much stayed clean all week. Now, I can’t ever complete one task fully. And, as for it staying clean/tidy – I have a toddler who sees that never happens.


I have gained ABL (AFTER BABY LIFE)…

1) More patience. Well, a little more than I ever had before anyway.

2) An understanding of why mums end up on that peak bus/train. You have a baby, they need feeding/changing/soothing and that makes you miss those more ‘buggy friendly’ travel times. Now I think so what I have paid my fare – and my partner in crime comes with her own seat!

3) I’m less selfish (I hope…) My time is Miss Marnie’s time. I don’t care if I miss my favourite show, a night out, she eats the last biscuit – really I don’t!

4) The joy in seeing things for the first time through a child’s eye is beyond words.

5) A real love of the baby aisle in the supermarket or chemist. More rows to shop and more things to buy. Yeah!

6) Seeing my husband be a dad – nothing beats that. Period.

7) How much more I can get done in a day. Well, not the housework I admit – but we can be up and out, been to toddler group and even done some shopping before lunch. The only thing I used to do before lunch was breakfast!

8) I can indulge in my love of crafts – glue, stickers, colouring, art attack – and call it ‘messy play’.

9) Other mums. The support, advice, knowing nod when your toddler is having a meltdown or just a smile and a helping hand down the stairs are all things that only other mums understand.

10) Unconditional love. Now I know the true meaning.

What do you miss BBL (Before Baby Life) and what have you gained ABL (After Baby Life)?


  1. June 14, 2014 / 3:36 pm

    Such a sweet post … life is so different after a baby but for the better. : )

    • June 17, 2014 / 8:38 pm

      Thanks Leyla – I totally agree! x

  2. October 10, 2014 / 10:13 pm

    Ha ha, yep, I relate to everything in your list. Wore my biggest heels last weekend and was hobbling after about five minutes! Yep, life has changed but I wouldn't change it for the world. #thelist

    • November 13, 2014 / 10:23 am

      Me either! I love my flats anyway xx

  3. October 11, 2014 / 7:23 pm

    Such a gorgeous post lovely! I agree with every point. I think for me the main things I miss are sleep and having 'me' time, to get a haircut etc (without having to pacify a crying Baby while the hairdresser snips away! Thanks for much for linking up to #TheList x

    • November 13, 2014 / 10:24 am

      Thank you! I know sleep is the one thing I miss the most ha ha xx

  4. October 17, 2014 / 4:10 pm

    Lovely post. I really do miss the spontaneous nights out though. #thelist

    • November 13, 2014 / 10:24 am

      Thank you! I know all the planning takes the fun out of it a bit- but I guess its something to look forward to and you enjoy your nights out even more so x

  5. April 11, 2015 / 1:34 pm

    Yep yep yep – and heels? I walk like a man in drag for the first five minutes. Not a good look! And wallowing. I miss wallowing

  6. April 13, 2016 / 1:46 pm

    Such a lovely post! and loved reading it as we are about to start a family!


  7. April 13, 2016 / 6:01 pm

    I wrote a post recently about the things I missed since having a baby, mainly being time alone, quiet, being able to leave the house quickly, etc!! But I wouldn't change it for the world and prefer my ABL much more! 🙂

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